Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Language” is a widely acclaimed relationship book that explores different ways people express and experience love.

The purpose of the book is to help people show love to their partners in ways that it will be received. It’s based on the premise that, just as there are different verbal languages throughout the world, there are also different ‘love languages’, and if we’re not speaking the same one as our spouse they are likely not hearing our messages of love, nor are we receiving theirs. It is one thing to love, and it is another to love rightly.

For ‘real love’ to flourish, Chapman posits that you must be able to communicate, or act, within the primary love language of your partner. These love languages are:

• Words of Affirmation: Expressing love through verbal affirmations, compliments, and words of encouragement.

• Acts of Service: Demonstrating love through helpful actions and gestures.

• Receiving Gifts: Feeling loved through thoughtful gifts and tokens of affection.

• Quality Time: Valuing undivided attention and meaningful time spent together.

• Physical Touch: Expressing love through physical closeness, such as hugs, kisses, or holding hands.

Gary reveals a few ways to discover your love language, which include: observing how you or your partner express love most often, paying attention to complaints, and noticing requests.

One of the concepts discussed in the book that I find interesting is the concept of a "love tank" which represents a person's emotional reservoir that needs to be consistently filled to maintain a healthy relationship. Regularly expressing love in a partner's primary love language helps keep their love tank full.

This is worthwhile read if you are looking to improve your relationship and expressing love in a way that resonate with your lover on a deep and meaningful level.